If you’re not already a big fan of mindset work and the concept of abundance, you might think it’s all wacky hippy sh!t.
But just bear with me, okay.
This whole abundance thing deserves to get talked about a little bit more, and in practical terms. When we see Instagram posts or stories about abundance, it’s often in vague, mystical terms, and it’s hard to get your head around how you can apply this mindset to YOUR life.
Well, that’s what I’m here for. Here’s the thing: we often don’t like talking about things like this, because it shows that we’re a work in progress. It’s natural to only want to show the most ‘final’ version of yourself or your business to the outside world.
But let me go first. I’m not ready. I am still evolving as a human, as a daughter, as a girlfriend, as a best friend, as a business owner. Today, I’m going to share with you where I am right now in relation to the abundance mindset, and I hope that by doing that, you’ll have a few ‘aha’ moments of your own.
Money, money money
First up, let’s talk money. If you know me, you know that I like talking about money. It’s such a huge taboo in our society, yet it’s one of the biggest things that we struggle with as humans, so we should all talk about it a little bit more.
Money is a form of energy, we need it, and it’s good. We often look at money and spending as being a bad thing, which puts us in a scarcity mindset.
We need to flip the script and instead develop an abundance mindset. Abundance is defined by the dictionary as a very large quantity of something.
When we tell ourselves that we can’t afford something, and that we can’t buy it, we’re getting stuck in a scarcity mindset, which actually leads us to have less money.
I’ve had this mindset in relation to money ever since I was about 15. Even through studying, when I was supporting myself financially, I was still taking trips and stuff and sometimes I went to the zero mark on my account.
Money, you can always make back. Memories, you can’t.
And because I did that and because I invested in those experiences, I also got the motivation to actually create exponentially more. Spending isn’t just losing money. Investing in a course, for example, is investing in myself. It’s something that will in return create more.
When I invest in my brand by buying professional audio tools to record my podcast, or I buy a nice dress that helps me look professional on video, I believe that money comes back. What goes around comes around.
With money and with everything else in life, your self-talk is everything. If you’re always saying you can’t afford things, the universe will hear you and you actually won’t be able to afford it. So try and replace your self-talk with abundance instead of scarcity, and see how things change.
Often, our attitude towards money is related to the environment where we grew up. If you grew up in a really big spender family where they were always spending, but there was no money left, chances are, you're kind of the same. You spend all your money and you're used to not having any money. You might work hard, but at the end of the month, you've always spent it all.
We can choose to change that mindset, and to choose our new storyline.
Actually looking at how you can create more money, how you can earn more, how you can be bigger is immensely valuable. Instead of saying I can't afford this course or this coach or this vacation, look at how I can afford this — because that opens up an entirely different conversation with yourself and your environment.
It’s the same with software. Let’s take Canva as an example. I use it every single day, and it saves me a ton of time. It’s about $12 a month, and you could think to yourself, “I’m not going to spend $12 a month on something”, but honestly, if you’re using it every single day and it’s saving you time, then choose to be abundant and get in the flow, and create better work!
Believe in your product
You can also apply an abundance mindset to sales.
Hard truth coming up: if we feel like our offer isn’t good enough, we’re not going to sell.
If you think it sucks, everyone will think it sucks. If you’re not abundantly enthusiastic about what you have to offer, no one else will be enthusiastic, and no one will buy.
Abundant enthusiasm, abundant belief.
You need to always believe that there are people who have the money, and who are a perfect fit for you. There’s over 7 billion people on this planet. 11 million in Belgium alone. You only need a handful of people.
Don’t be afraid to go all-in! Embrace the fear, and jump in. I notice a lot of people have difficulty stating big goals because they're afraid that they will feel ashamed when they don't reach their goals. But honestly, what's the worst that can happen if you don’t reach your goal? You're not reaching it now either, because you're not daring to dream big.
If you set a really big, really audacious, really bold goal, that means that you are going to increase your set points and you are going to do so much better. For example, this could be your goal for a launch. If you're like, “Oh, I want five sales. Maybe I'll hit four sales, maybe hit five sales,” then you’ll probably reach roughly those numbers. But if you say “I want 10 sales,” it’s likely you'll hit more than if you were aiming for four or five.
So why is everyone so afraid of setting abundantly big goals? Is it because we were trained to think small? Is it because men have made us believe that we are smaller? We are allowed to dream big, and there is no shame in not reaching a goal.
Let’s talk about sex, baby
Well, relationships specifically. Sorry to get your hopes up.
For the longest time men have made me believe that I was too much. I was too much ‘me’. I couldn't be big, so I started making myself smaller. I'm not talking about the physical aspects, I'm talking about, “Hey, I'm an ambitious woman running two businesses, setting big goals, making big bucks, doing big launches, spending, buying all of the things and will a guy be okay with that?”
You might be in a relationship right now, or you might not be, and you might be fearful that no one will accept you as you are.
Someone will love you for your big, bold authenticity. Someone will love all of the abundance that you embody. There is so much abundance in being yourself to the fullest. There is a partner for you out there. You can only attract that person when you embody the abundance in being yourself to the fullest.
There’s abundance in asking that guy out! I asked my boyfriend out, and who knows? Maybe if I hadn’t done that, we now wouldn’t be together. Come from a place of abundance, not from a place of scarcity.
Be abundant in your business
And last but not least, I want to go into like your brand, your business and your authenticity in your brand and business. In the first episode of my podcast The Fast Forward Amy Show, I talked about the fact that if she can do it, you can do it too. And I'm going to go into that a little bit more now.
I used to be jealous online — sometimes maybe sometimes I still am. I would see someone else get a bunch of likes, or put out videos of amazing quality, or have an amazing personal brand, and I would think to myself, “am I hating her? Am I hating me?”
It’s a weird thing. You might not be able to pinpoint exactly what you’re feeling, but you know for sure that it’s not a good feeling.
I used to look at others and think to myself:
If she’s doing it this way, that means I can’t.
If she has this, that means I can’t.
If she’s making this much money, she’s beaten me.
That’s all total bullshit.
Because if she can do it, I can do it too.
If she can do it, you can do it too.
So there you have it – your mindset can quite literally change your life. Pay attention to your mindset in different areas of your life. Are you coming at situations from a mindset of scarcity? If you are, it’s time to flip the script and get into abundance mode. You’ll be so glad you did.
Want to learn more about abundance mindset? I’ve dedicated an entire podcast episode to this very topic. Go listen to the FastForwardAmy Show Episode 12.
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