Recently, I set a 100 day challenge for myself to create a healthier and happier me. Some people would think 100 days is too much and others would think it’s too little. But here’s a little tidbit for you: it takes approximately 66 days for people to create a new habit. So, if you want to go to the gym 3 times a week, you should implement this in your weekly schedule for 66 days before it becomes a habit. Otherwise, you'll never stop feeling like you're failing.
If you were to create a 100 day challenge for yourself, what would your targets be? To give you an idea, mine included: taking 15.000 steps a day, eating no gluten, getting 8 hours of sleep every night, posting 2 reels a day, etc.
And, I think the more important question might be: how do you make sure you don’t feel like you’re failing all of the time?
1. Make your targets process based
Let’s say you also want to post 2 reels a day, then your target is to get those 2 pieces of content out there. Your target does NOT consist of making this content go viral, it’s not about the amount of likes or comments you’re getting.
It’s about being able to tell yourself: you did the thing, you can cross it off your list.
Because if you end up hyper focusing on the numbers, you’ll end up feeling like you're failing big time and that’s the number one thing we want to avoid.
2. Follow the f*cking timeline
If you agreed to hitting certain targets for a certain time period, then you need to follow the timeline you set for yourself. So, do you need to get 2000 more steps in? Then you have to get on that treadmill, or go outside and get those steps in instead of bumming out on the couch and rewatching Friends for the millionth time.
UNLESS reaching that one target is endangering another. Let’s say it’s 11pm and you still need 2000 steps, but your other goal is to get 8 hours of rest every night. Then you should go to sleep so you don’t jeopardize one target for the other.
3. Make your end goal clear
Don’t make your version of success too complicated, make it clear. Don’t get lost in the surrounding elements of your targets.
Set your target, make it as clear as possible and focus on getting there.
For example: going live on Instagram. You want there to be 100 people, but you also don’t because it freaks you out. But also, if there’s less than 20 people, you’ll feel like you’ve failed. Make your goal the fact you went live, not the live attendants, not the conversion or new followers — just the simple fact you went live.
Reframe your perfectionism and frame your win into something that feels good and fulfilling to you.
4. Take the path of least resistance
The path of least resistance… a road we’d love to walk but somehow we always miss the right turn, don’t we? The truth is that the path of least resistance is actually just doing the thing you're supposed to do. We often think there is much more resistance into making ourselves do the thing, but it's because we resist the resistance.
And you know where that feeling of resistance comes from? Our fear of failure.
It’s really as simple as that, it’s not your intuition or your gut feeling telling you not to do something — it’s you being afraid of walking into a wall face first.
And you know what? If that happens, it’s totally fine. We don’t learn by succeeding all of the time. So let go of that feeling like you're failing continuously by giving in to what you know you need to do.
5. Commit to the process
Stick to what you know, don’t let your fears or insecurities come into play because if I had done that, I wouldn’t be selling anything anymore. During a launch, it’s my job to pitch our offer and if the response wasn’t what I was expecting (i.e. sales) I would shy away from pitching in the future.
So, commit to the process you’ve set in place because it’s there for a reason. If you don’t get any results, then you can’t blame yourself because you committed to the process. Naturally, after the launch is done you can go back and analyze what might need to change in the future BUT never make these decisions based on fear or insecurity because 9 times out of 10, it won’t be the right decision.
So make sure you have a look at what am I committing to? What does that mean? And what is the win for me?
Commit to the process and the results will follow. And that will result in you not feeling like you're failing every single day.
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